“Fear-based living crushes joy, dismantles relationships, increases stress and shortens life. Choose love.”
I used to be terrified of flying.
Every time I’d leave the airport terminal for the plane I was convinced it was for the last time. Even the terms around flying scared me: terminal, hangar, turbulence, crash positions,oxygen mask.
I’d find my seat, sit down, look around and wonder how everyone around me could be so at peace. Didn’t they know what was about to happen?
Overtime, I used three exercises to transform my fear of crashing into a joy of flying. I am sharing these tips so that you can work to shift your anxieties into opportunities, too. I used them with flying, but also with public speaking, networking events, sales calls. They have transformed my business and life!
Friends, fear-based living crushes joy, dismantles relationships, increases stress and shortens life. [Tweet this.]
It’s time to make the shift from fear of what might happen to love of what’s really happening. Here we go:
- Know the facts! Fear is often based on things that are NOT likely to happen! So first I researched the actual risks of flying. I learned that on average there is only one plane crash for every 1.4 million flights (which equals fewer than 200 deaths in plane crashes annually). Compare that to nearly 400,000 deaths due to heart disease (which can be triggered by stress) and I just talked myself into cutting down fear to decrease stress!
- Let it go! Part of my fear was rooted in giving control to someone else. Part of what liberated me from my 36,000 foot bout with fear was having faith in others, in their expertise, in technology and in the fact that ultimately God works in all things. This simple act of surrendering freed me immensely, not just while flying, but also in life.
- Reframe it! Most fears center around the negative perception of what might happen to us. Reframing it frees us to consider instead: how might this actually result in a gift for others? How might making these sales calls benefit your clients; how might quitting smoking today allow your daughter to see you at her wedding tomorrow? I used to think about worst-case scenarios for me. Now I can’t wait to take off, touch down and share my message with individuals so they can take back their life, ignite their possibility and change their world.
This process has freed me to actually enjoy the process of boarding, taxiing, flying, and interacting with other passengers…even the grumpy ones. Away from wi-fi, cell phones, and meetings: flying is now my most productive time of the week.
Occasionally, I find myself staring out the window in awe of what is: the marvel of air travel, the stunning beauty of the sky and the gift of finally seeing it.
Friend, what exercises have worked as you’ve chosen to rise above fears in your life, business and relationships? Share one example in the comments below. I can’t wait to add yours to my list!
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