Being home more during the summer has provided the opportunity to play a lot more with my kids. It’s been awesome and exhausting. I’m like a full-time referee, surgeon, counselor, student, tutor, gamer, friend, boss. In other words, a Dad.
Perhaps my favorite expression these kids use every day is: “I want a Do-Over.”
I want a Do-Over. They work well when Dad beats them in ping pong, or a brother beats them in basketball, or a sister beats them in a friendly (frequently turning violent) game of Sorry.
But it is also an expression that I’m convinced could be transformative for adults.
Actually, I recently read about a study in which a group of people who were 95 years old were each asked one simple question. What’s your biggest regret? In other words, if you could go back in time what would you choose to “Do-Over”?
The three answers shared most frequently were:
- Risk more.
- Reflect more.
- Do more that will live on after I die.
My friend, what sage wisdom from women and men who lived more than nine decades! The greatest regrets of their lives should serve as simple challenges in ours.
Take more risks. Be bold in our professions, in our relationships, with our words and in our lives. Not from a place of fear, but from a place of appreciation for what is possible.
Reflect more. Life frequently feels like a sprint. Days get busy, lists of tasks and expectations get long. Years go by quickly. But a life without reflection and intention is not a life of real meaning. So slow down. Breathe. Journal. Pray. Reflect. Celebrate this moment.
Do more that will live on after you die. We all know that what we do for ourselves dies with us, what we do for others lives on through the ripple effect of our lives. The wisdom of these elders reminds us to actually live into it. Serve. Visit the neighbor. Donate time. Give money. Make your life about a cause.
Don’t wait until you are 95 and someone asks you what you wish you’d done during your life. Begin now. [Tweet this.]
This is your chance. Take your “Do-Over.” This is your chance to start anew. This is your opportunity to say I’m sorry…or…I love you…or…let’s try again. This is your moment to no longer be held back by past hurts and mistakes. This is your invitation to enjoy every moment. Every single one.
This is your day. Live Inspired.
Friend, today you are granted a Do-Over! Share in the comments below how you will use this chance to start a fresh chapter. I can’t wait to hear!