Carol, I have a few key phrases that remind me of what is important — and what isn’t.
I have gotten in the habit of repeating these to myself throughout the day as needed.
I hope they inspire you too:
“I love you…and there is nothing you can do about it.” I say this to myself before entering any conversation. It frees me to engage with greater alertness, more focused on their needs, without any need to judge.
“Thank you.” I try to say this in my mind and heart after someone has finished speaking, regardless of what he or she has said. Its a great way to show that you are truly listening and to avert unnecessary conflict. Taking everything that comes your way as a gift may not change the tone with which it’s spoken, but it certainly transforms the manner in which you respond and the way you feel.
“This too shall pass.” This is perhaps the most important. When I am at the top of the world professionally, my wife is smiling, the children are playing quietly I remind myself “this too shall pass”…ensuring I don’t miss the miracle of the moment. Conversely, when I am struggling professionally, have challenges in marriage, or the children are fighting, I remind myself, “This too shall pass”…reminding me to hang in there because best is yet to come.
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