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Stop Underestimating the Teenagers in Your Life | Chelsey Goodan (ep. 652)

Chelsey Goodan

John O’Leary welcomes Chelsey Goodan to the Live Inspired Podcast to equip us with tools to nurture confidence, resilience, and authenticity in the lives of our children and teenagers.

For more than 16 years, Chelsey Goodan has been an academic tutor and mentor specializing in strengthening the confidence of teenage girls. In an era where our young people face unparalleled challenges, Chelsey has learned many crucial things they are concerned about… yet are reluctant to tell.

Today, Chelsey shares how, with the right understanding and support, adults can empower and uplift teenagers in a society that often underestimates them.

Learn the proven and actionable strategies to engage in meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics with honesty, and cultivate a culture of connection.

My friends, regardless of the role you play in a child or teenager’s life, this conversation will equip you with the tools needed to nurture confidence, resilience, and authenticity.

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  • Chelsey’s dad empowered her to dream big and encouraged her confidence and joy.
  • “Out of our own discomfort, we want to just fix it.” Instead of trying to fix the problem or offer positivity, Chelsey encourages us to hold space and simply reflecting back the feelings expressed.
  • Phrasing open-ended questions in a nonjudgmental tone sparks curiosity and serves as a source of empowerment and trust.
  • Teenage girls are often underestimated and face societal pressure to be perfect and likable which often continue into adulthood.
  • Help young people explore their interests by creating a permission space or a growth space – a zone between success and failure where it’s solely about them connecting with themselves and their own joy and not outcome-oriented.
  • Teaching children media literacy and empowering them to choose social media feeds that feel healthy can help combat the negatives of today’s social media landscape.
  • To determine when children are ready for more social media exposure, Chelsey reminds us that each child is unique and suggests watching a television show with the pre-teen and gauge the discussion.
  • Perfect doesn’t exist. Excellence can naturally occur when children are connected to their authenticity and their passions.
  • The average age for a girl to start dieting is eight, and a girl’s confidence drops by 30% between 8 and 14 years old.
  • Everyone feels judged and judging prevents human connection to ourselves and others.
  • Get a copy of Chelsey Goodan’s book Underestimated: The Wisdom and Power of Teenage Girls here.


Did you enjoy today’s episode? 

You’ll love my conversation with Dr. Tim Jordan! As a developmental and behavioral pediatrician Dr. Tim Jordan is an expert on navigating children through their normal developmental transformations, to emerge strong, happy and fulfilled. Hear Tim share his common sense approach that enables parents to be more confident and effective, reducing conflict and drama while remaining a strong influence in their children’s lives throughout adolescence and early adulthood. Regardless of the role you play in a child’s life, this conservation will equip you with practical advice to build closer relationships based on trust and understanding. Listen to Dr. Tim Jordan on ep. 330.


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  1. Q. What is the best book you’ve ever read?
    A. The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck and The Gifts of Imperfections by Brené Brown.
  2. Q. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today?
    A. I've done so much hard work on connecting back to Little Chelsea, who's enthusiastic, brave, silly and weird. I love her, and I feel like I am connected to her.
  3. Q. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be?
    A. For 15 years, my friends and I have this trophy called the Beach Braggadocio Award.
  4. Q. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be?
    A. Oprah.
  5. Q. What is the best advice you’ve ever received?
    A. My unique gift to the world is my own weirdness and authenticity.
  6. Q. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self?
    A. Don't make yourself small to make other people happy.
  7. Q. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?
    A. As a community organizer, I send emails with details of a specific event and right before the event starts, I get all these questions. I joke that what will be written on my tombstone is, "All the info is in the email."