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“How you respond to adversity determines the story you write.”

Life came at Ben hard and fast. When he was 6 months old, his divorcee mom was diagnosed with a rare disease and given only a few years to live.

The above quote is one Ben gleaned from his mother’s journal*, which he received 10 years after she passed. The time capsule of her positive attitude preserved in the journal swept Ben away. Today, he shares her worldview as a performance coach, speaker, and author.

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  • Life is tough but we have it in us to keep fighting.
  • Black boxes: We all have these places where we tuck away things we aren’t ready to deal with. (For me, that was my mom’s journal.) The stuff that takes you deep and makes you ask: Is it time for me to go there?
  • Don’t wait too long to take on the stuff that hurts. Real challenges show real character. Have courage and surround yourself with people who help give you that courage. That’s when you’ll find a deeper level of inner success.
  • Everybody has a story and everyone is writing their story. My goal with clients is to help him/her connect on a deeper level to what he/she is capable of achieving.
  • Right where you are, right now, in your life: It is part of your story. It’s likely not the end; just a chapter.
  • Learn and grow where you are. The life you want, you can get if you:
    1. Have a strong vision.
    2. Believe in that vision.
    3. Are willing to put the work in every day.
  • Why am I trying to control something I can’t control? When I asked this question, it helped me move on in my professional path.
  • Think about where you want to go, personally and professionally. Write it on paper “I am: a marathon runner” and believe in it. “I am at this level in sales.” Once you understand where you’re going, that’s how you build a prizefighter day.
  • Make every day a “prize fighter day.” What does this mean? Take your goal and break it down into what you need to do today to ensure you eventually meet your goal. If you spend your day this way, you’re having a prizefighter day.
  • Darren Hardy, The Compound Affect
  • Create habits that are sustainable longterm.
  • A successful mindset is one where we focus on solutions rather than the problem.
  • Focusing on solutions rather than problems = the power to reframe.
  • Identify what you can do that is positive and keep your mind on that.
  • How you choose to respond to adversity determines the story you write.
  • Ben’s purpose statement: to educate, empower and inspire individuals to uncover their passions and desires to seek a greater vision for themselves.
  • If you don’t know why you’re doing something, identify the purpose because it’s what is going to get you back up.
  • @ContinuedFight on twitter and Instagram

*Ben’s mom’s journal:










1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Discover your Destiny, Robin Sharma. If you’re looking to find your purpose, this is a great fable format that will do it for you.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. Donate to Barnes Jewish Hospital in honor of my mother. We donate a lot for my mom, so I’d want my wife to get to pick some places to donate to her passions, too. I would definitely fly on a private jet because it is hard to be on the road and miss family time. To catch 30 – 40 more nights at home? I would do it!

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. My mom’s journal.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? My mom. I would just hold her hand and hug her and I’d be crying so hard I couldn’t speak.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? It’s not how long you live it’s how you choose to live your life. Advice from my mom.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Never settle; emotionally and in relationships especially.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Leave your legacy.


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4 replies on “Live Inspired Podcast: S4 | Ep. 39 Ben Newman”

John, thank you so much for all that you do! I am so inspired and empowered by your book and podcasts. I have wanted to express my gratitude to you, but I wasn’t sure how to do it. I guess this is one way by commenting here.
Every week I so look forward to your new podcast–knowing that I will be inspired and challenged to grow, learn, and be inspired to take my life to the next level. Thanks for the extra things you do with the podcast–like listing show notes of the extra good quotes and other takeaways. I would love to hear you speak live sometime, but I’m about 9 hours from St. Louis, so I didn’t work it out to come see you at that opening. I plan to find a way sometime though. I’d love to have you speak at our company where I work as Director of Personnel sometime, but we’ll see.
Anyway, enough for now. Thank you for sharing your life, your story, your gifts, and for being brave enough to share from who you are–inspiring many of us to grow and learn from you.
I appreciate how many of your speakers are coaches, as that is what I am working towards doing as well–which is probably why I connect so well emotionally to what you are about…
May God continue to bless you in your life and work.

Conrad – thank you for your very sweet words, for taking the time to share them and for ALL you do. The next public / ticketed event I have is in St. Louis on 9/14 – I know it’s not super close to you but wanted to share so you had the info (tickets are selling out so if you want to come, don’t wait too long to get your ticket): kmox.com/inspired
Stay on fire and stay in touch. J
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