John O’Leary welcomes relationship expert and empowerment coach Terri Cole onto the Live Inspired Podcast.
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of the book Boundary Boss.
With actionable strategies, Terri empowers others to consciously take control of every aspect of their emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life.
Today’s conversation reminds each of us that we hold the ability the create more satisfaction, deeper relationships and a more joy-filled life.
If you or someone you love is exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling, this episode is for you.
- Terri’s on a mission to help as many people around the world to have less suffering and more joy.
- Giving birth to four daughters in six years, Terri’s mother was determined to empower them.
- At 21 and a senior in college, Terri quit drinking after recognizing her dependence on alcohol.
- Talk it out or act it out: Battling the frustrations of their family system, Terri and her sisters all faced struggles with addiction.
- “Your healing comes from the asking and having the courage to negotiate for your needs, desires and wants.”
- After losing her father at what she felt was the precipice of her life, Teri was diagnosed with cancer.
- The scars exist because the wounds have healed.
- Boundaries are comprised of preferences, limits and deal breakers.
- The disease to please is saying “yes” when you’d rather say “no”.
- A lot of “self-sacrifice” is actually to avoid conflict.
- Co-dependency: overly involved in the feelings, outcomes, relationships and circumstances of the people in your life to the detriment of your internal peace and overall well-being.
- A high-functioning codependent is often smart, successful, reliable, and accomplished. They don’t identify with being dependent, because they are likely doing everything for everyone else.
- “Perfectionism is a sanctioned drug in our hyper-ambitious money-centric society.”
- “What can you do with actual generosity instead of what are you doing out of sheer obligation?”
- Take inventory of every commitment you make and give yourself permission to stop serving those who aren’t deserving.
- A radical act of self-care is not giving everyone so much access to your amazing, one-of-a-kind life.
- Get a copy of Terri Cole’s book Boundary Boss here.
Did you enjoy today’s episode?
Are looking for more tips on establishing healthy boundaries? You’ll love my conversation with Megan Hyatt Miller. Megan and her father New York Times bestselling author + leadership expert Michael Hyatt coach leaders to rebalance, reprioritize and reimagine what success looks like. Listen to ep. 352 now.
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TERRI COLE'S LIVE INSPIRED 7
- Q. What is the best book you’ve ever read?
A. Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra.
- Q. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today?
A. Lack of any self-consciousness.
- Q. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be?
A. My wedding rings. I have my grandmother’s ring, my band and my diamond.
- Q. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be?
A. So many: Oprah, Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chödrön, Barbra Streisand, Barak Obama.
- Q. What is the best advice you’ve ever received?
A. If you need things to be done a certain way, and you’re very critical, then you’ll be doing it all for yourself by yourself. Stop being so judgmental and accept the help the way that it comes.
- Q. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self?
A. It’s all going to work out.
- Q. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?
A. She was kind.